I was just chatting with my high school kid’s new friend’s mom. We’re both so happy that our kids are friends! We were discussing this weekend’s plans for a sleepover and a fun run.
And then she wrote this:
“I think that you model amazing things for your boys. It is so cool to hear how well your son speaks of you. He is so proud of his mother…. I told my husband that you have really done a great job. We both agree that your kid is really incredible.”(names have been removed)
And you guys, I welled up a little and then I copied and pasted that right into my Uplift List.
Anytime someone tells me that I’ve made a difference or gives me heartfelt praise or gratitude, it goes on the list. It’s not for testimonials or marketing (that’s a different list.)
It’s for the days when I feel stupid or ineffective and I need evidence that has not always been so. It’s like a push up bra for your soul–supportive and uplifting.
Our mind tends to remember the mistakes we’ve made and the hurtful things that people have said to us. I
t’s not trying to be negative. The need for safety gives it that bias. So, it’s up to us to deliberately stack the deck back to neutrality and health.
I hope you have an Uplift List too. If you do, I want to know about it. If you don’t, take this idea and run with it! Let me know how it works for you!